The Difference Between A Submissive And A Needy Bottom

The Difference Between A Submissive and a Needy Bottom

It’s time for a little conversation.

I’ve been getting a lot of messages. And I think it’s important that we define some structure. There needs to be a better understanding of submission. In fact, if you ask me why I do not have a boy right now, the most common answer is geography and because the boys in my area frustrate the hell out of me.

Why do they frustrate me you might ask? Because for many of them their concept of submission is a rough fuck. Sex and dominance are mutually exclusive. There are deeply sexual elements. Our hormones are at a very high level. We have primal need that engage in in these moments. But we do not need to engage in intercourse to express our dominant and submissive attributes.

So when you message me, and your first comment to me is that you me to fuck you, my immediate thought is that you are just a hungry bottom and not a submissive. You are more concerned with your needs and desires than understanding what I means to be submissive. You just want to get something you want.

I am not saying that when you have a positive interaction with a dominant you cannot beg him to fuck you. Most boys do. However, they do so because they have earned that right to appeal to the Man.

Remember a submissive means bring joy to a Dominant. It means being their for him. It means making him feel good because doing something for another makes you feel good. You feel balanced. You feel connected.

If you want to express yourself as a submissive. Your first thought (or message) should be, what can I do to make him happy?

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11 years ago

Day 8

Over a week locked up now, 7 more to go. I'm hoping that my hornyiness starts to level off at some point, because right now I think about sex all day long. At least it's good motivation to get me to the gym and keep me pushing my limits during my workout. Hopefully that will help keep helping me use up some of this pent up energy I have.


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11 years ago

Day 6

I'm going so crazy right now. Woken up early by a morning erection trying to get hard in my cage again. Luckily my roommate took my key away yesterday, so there won't be any cheating. I'm not sure how long it's going to be before I start begging him for it back thought -- If I feel this way right now, I can't imagine how I'm going to make it another 5 weeks.


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11 years ago

Yes Sir, I am

Shackles For The Sub

Shackles for the sub


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11 years ago

So true

If Someone Had Told 6 Months Ago That I Would Love Having My Dick Locked In A Cage, I Would Have Laughed.

If someone had told 6 months ago that I would love having my dick locked in a cage, I would have laughed. There’s no way I would love not being able to cum daily. And yet here I am, enjoying being locked up. It’s addictive. My sex drive disappears every time I come, so it’s better when I only focus on making my bf come.


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9 years ago
Pic: @slaveboy272

Pic: @slaveboy272

Everyone knows the drill. One cock is enough in a relationship. Naturally my boyfriend was the one who had to be locked. I’d always been the top so he agreed after hours of discussion to wear the cage and give me the key. 

After 3 weeks of chastity he was so horny that even the slightest touch would make him shiver with pleasure. You can see from the expression on his face that his cock is straining. This has improved our relationship and love for each other so much. I wish we’d done it sooner.

11 years ago

I've been locked up for two weeks now. Six more weeks to go, assuming I don't mess up.

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Should fags be allowed to masturbate?

Not the way a Man does.  A faggot’s sex organ is his pussy.

11 years ago

This looks like a lot of fun

Ok, so I think I have come up with a set of rules for our chastity game. First there will be me, the Keyholder, who will be running the game. Then there will be the players who are locked in chastity. Preferably there will be 5 or more players. All the players will become members of this blog so...


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8 years ago
I Got A New Mature Metal Cage!!!
I Got A New Mature Metal Cage!!!

I got a new mature metal cage!!!

And since it’s designed for externally long wear I thought I would have my first post where all of you decided the length!

This post has been up and will count till the end of Sunday.

1 like = 1 hour 1 reblog = 1 day

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Exploring My Kinky Side

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