Suddenly The Soul No Longer Plays Along. My Body Feels Empty. Don’t Be Like That, I Tell Myself. Hang

What do you think is most important in a relationship?

Trust

Only when both partners fully trust each other can you really feel comfortable in the relationship. If you mistrust your partner, the basis for happiness is missing. Because no matter which shared experience you share - a bad feeling remains.

Communication

Talk to each other. And more importantly, listen to each other. Anyone who recognizes problems at an early stage and clears them out of the way through a conversation has better chances of remaining happy in the relationship.

Security

Providing security for your partner is not that difficult. Be reliable and abide by agreements. Those who stand their partners up or do not support them in important situations will not remain happy for long.

Caring

Care for each other. And that doesn’t just apply if you or your partner are feeling bad. Always take care of your partner. This will make you both feel safe and secure in your relationship.

Common values and interests

If you are interested in the same things, it is easier to find common topics for discussion. Leisure time is also easier to arrange for both. However, be sure to do things without your partner. You’ll soon have nothing left to tell each other.

Humor

Laugh whenever you can. Of course, a similar sense of humor is helpful. If you are far apart when it comes to humor, avoid looking at things that one of you can’t relate to. That just leads to arguments.

Happiness

Experience and share beautiful things. If you have the same interests, this will of course be much easier. Very important: Make yourself aware of your happiness and tell your partner how you feel. Not only crises, but also common happiness brings people together.

Type of relationship

Share as much as possible with each other and exchange information intensively. Put your partner very high on the priority list. The closer your relationship is without restricting others, the better your chances of lasting happiness.

Love

Try to keep the feeling of being in love. The tingling sensation remains in the stomach and the relationship remains exciting for a long time. But how do you do it? Surprises are the easiest way. And they don’t even have to be big. Do you know that your partner likes to nibble a certain treat, bring it to him/her. If (s)he’s been looking for a particular record for a long time, try to find it. If you try your best, you can keep the feeling of being in love for a long time.

Wounded Life

When I was on the ground for the first time, I felt how stale advice can be. When the energy fades, the dreams dissolve into air, another era begins. If the body fails to obey its obedience, the old strategies no longer work. Suddenly many things become strenuous. Very strenuous.

Depression can be a fresh start. By learning to feel myself better again, I can change the direction of my life. Maybe more humility is called for again. Maybe I can stop and ask myself what really matters.

Someone’s always there for you. No matter what.

The picture with the curves you drew

Over time I learned to deal with difficult feelings like loneliness, fear and hopelessness. That doesn't mean they've lost their horror for me. It means a lot more, they're familiar to me. I can face them differently.

I find the loss of strength much more serious. Dealing with the inner emptiness is already a challenge for me. To still go further, to raise me up again and again. Without energy, even that becomes a farce. When simple daily routines exhaust me, the fear grows that I will not be able to get up again at some point.

Experience is Wisdom

Shame is often the companion of weakness, because lying on the floor it is difficult to preserve dignity. Suddenly I sense how others have to feel at such moments. You want understanding, not advice. For a long time, I was just looking at the nice feelings. I want to walk through life in a good mood. What am I supposed to do with sadness and fear? I denied myself and my feelings.

Silence sometimes is the loudest cry

Contacts

Contacts imply the willingness to show myself. Without contact to the people around me I would become even more lonely. Yes, I am actually dependent on it in difficult situations. As the mental pressure increases, help takes on a different meaning.

There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.

Thank you for your kind messages, they have really kept my will to live for a very long time. Now is the time to say goodbye to you and my life. Thanks for everything!

I am very sorry that you feel so hopeless right now that you are considering suicide! Even if you can’t really see it right now: Things in your life can go better again! There is usually no situation so hopeless that there is no reason to hope for a recovery. Think about the following three reasons why it might still be worth living on.

First reason: Your situation can change

Always remember that stressful situations, no matter how hopeless they may seem at the moment, can change and even suddenly change for the better. Even if this does not happen as quickly as you would like, you shouldn’t try to solve all problems at once, but to look at them for yourself every day.

Of course, there are always circumstances that cannot be changed, e.g. if you suffer from a chronic illness, lose a loved one through death or break up a marriage. In these cases, too, something can be done: Change your own mindset. You can either endlessly mourn what has happened unchangingly, or you can come to terms with it mentally. In that case it is easier to see one’s own situation more positively. It is also more likely to look for ways to deal with the situation than to put an end to it with drastic means. This brings you to the point where you are no longer completely helpless in a situation that seems unchangeable.

You should also never forget the following: If you cannot climb a mountain at once, you may manage it in several stages - step by step. The same applies to most obstacles in life, no matter how huge they may seem.

You can do one thing right now: Talk to someone about the situation, for example a friend or family member. Maybe he or she can help you not to see things so badly anymore.

A second reason for choosing life: There’s help!

People who care about you can be a help. These can be relatives, friends and others who are personally interested in you. If they may not always approach you on their own, you may be able to address them and pour out your heart in a face-to-face conversation.

Then there is also professional help, which you should absolutely take with thoughts of suicide. Often these thoughts are caused by a severe depression for which no one should be ashamed, just as no one should be ashamed of a physical illness. Depression is like a cold among mental illnesses. In theory, anyone can get it - and there are treatment options. If your suicidal thoughts are very strong or persistent, you should find out where you can get help, perhaps at emergency hotlines or other suicide prevention advice centres. They are staffed by trained personnel. Here are a few places you could contact:

Emergency counseling: telephone hotline (free of charge, 24 h)The telephone counselling staff listen to you well, take part in your problems and can refer you to the appropriate facilities if necessary. You can get anonymous advice here at any time of the day or night.

Social psychiatric service: It offers counselling and further assistance to people in psychological crises. Often you will find this service at the health office or you can ask for the address and telephone number at the municipal office.

Counselling centres of the youth welfare offices, child guidance centres and marriage, family and life counselling centres: these are contact points for the most varied problems in every town and municipality.

Online advice: There are many different websites that offer help.

Please do not forget that you cannot get out of a serious mental crisis alone, but if someone helps you, you can make it! Outpatient therapy also helps many to regain more self-confidence and to find strategies for overcoming their problems. It is also important to have someone you can trust and always pour your heart out to.

Here’s a third reason to go on living: There is hope!

Even if you have reached your limits for a long time, this does not mean that a ray of hope will not light up at some point. As already said, situations change, not everything stays the same, desolate and hopeless forever. Your illness can be like a long dark tunnel, whose end you cannot see at the moment. But remember that at some point even the longest tunnel will be over and you will see the daylight again. Many before you have been like this, and so it can be in your case! Even if it’s hard, make one thing your motto: “Giving up is not an option”. This attitude can help you never lose hope, no matter how dark it looks around you.

I wish you very much that with the help and support of others you succeed in overcoming your bad emotional low and that you make the discovery that it is also worth living on in your case. All the best!