I Was Clearing Out My Camera Roll And Found This From Awhile Back And Idk What To Do With It So Here

I’m still not emotionally ready for this

Sydney is better than me cause I would’ve called her out if she was making the face she was making at me in a second

At some point in s3 I need to see Richie make fun Carmy for being so fucking short

Actually The Bear is a really good case study on trauma being deemed as abhorrent when it’s not presented in a pretty or digestible way within media including how characters who struggle with it are seen as unlovable. Particularly within Carmen’s character and the audience’s response to his behavior in season 3. Let me start this off by saying I’m not trying excuse any of Carmy’s actions throughout s3, I’m just acknowledging that trauma and it’s effects on the traumatized individual as well the effects on people in their life are complex and unpredictable, furthermore, people who haven’t experienced trauma tend to be more judgmental than compassionate towards them. Carmy is no different; him exhibiting this behavior and a certain part of The Bear fanbase choosing to ignore his past or just plain forgetting it and acting he’s like the worst person to have ever existed for having trauma and experiencing many of it’s ugly side effects. I firmly believe that a big part of this reaction is because many people lack nuance in media and an understanding that nothing is ever truly black and white. There are many shades of grey within humanity and The Bear is one of the few pieces of media that does a wonderful job of showing that. It’s glaringly obvious that Carmy has a multitude of issues that need to be addressed before he can run a successful restaurant and maintain healthy relationships. But None of that makes him an irredeemable or horrible person. It makes him a flawed human being that needs help who is also deserving of love and support. Trauma is far from beautiful and I’m tired of people acting like it needs to be portrayed in media in a sanitized way that erases all the hardships that come with it because they feel uncomfortable when they’re shown the gritty, raw, vulnerable truth of what trauma really is; of what it really does to a person. Carmy is no exception, he is struggling with his mental health in a way that is not pretty and wrapped up in a bow and people can’t handle it because we’re being shown the reality of it. He is angry, lashing out, spiraling, handling his emotions the only way he knows how by throwing himself into his work. I won’t deny that he has treated the people in his life poorly and he will need to earn their forgiveness in his own time. Yet none of that makes him any less worthy of love and patience. He needs professional help but he will only reach out when he’s ready too and even then it won’t go away over night. It can take months, and possibly years to truly heal from every thing he’s been through and after all of that he will still have bad days and he will still be just as worthy of love on those days as he is on the good ones. Struggling with trauma will never make anybody underserving of being treated with kindness or compassion and it will never make anyone any less worthy of being loved.

I love how the pjo tv show is fully leaning in the narrative that the gods are not good parents whatsoever and letting us know that they maybe the demigods mothers/fathers but they sure as hell aren’t their parents

Athena after Percy sent Medusas head to Olympus

Carmy having to ask if Claire is his girlfriend after literally buying Syd a personalized Thom Browne jacket, telling Syd he couldn’t do this without her, he wouldn’t even want to do this without her, and she makes him better at this, picturing Syd to calm himself down from an intense panic attack, yelling Syd’s name when he got stuck in the fridge, saying he felt like he should’ve known that her mom died, and saying you deserve my full focus and nothing less. Yeah buddy you have a girlfriend it’s just not Claire.

Current stress level: Carmy berzatto at any given point

Busy thinking about how in The Hunger Games trilogy there is no chosen one trope and despite all the theories Prim wasn’t intentionally reaped (also because no totalitarian government with common sense would purposely nationally televise a girl with the influence to start an uprising against their oppression) Katniss Everdeen was a random face plucked from the masses of district twelve when she decided to volunteer for her sister at the reaping. She went into that arena so her little sister didn’t have to. She fought for her life again and again all whilst trying to keep Peeta alive just to find out they’d been lied to and someone had to die. So of course she was angry and of she course she said fuck you and fuck your games either we both go home or we both die and you have no victor. The Capitol obviously wasn’t thrilled when this happened and even less so when the districts saw it as an act defiance towards the Capitol and started rebelling and thus the Rebellion was sparked and soon after Katniss Everdeen became the face of it (even though she all she wanted was to save her sister and keep Peeta alive) and the Mockingjay was born. Because after all if a girl from district twelve of all of places could stand up to the Capitol what was stopping the districts from doing the same

Hope this helps