Thanks For Such Advice. During My Depression And Anxiety Periods In The Past, I Was Watching Some Films

Thanks for such advice. During my depression and anxiety periods in the past, I was watching some films and reading books and it totally saved me from suicide.

I really recommend those things, they are really helpful, even though I rarely have anxiety periods right now.

Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety

A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.

This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.

You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind.

People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.

In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture.

Therefore, I present to you:

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS

–Go on a walk

–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.

–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching

–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind

–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift

–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:

–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.

–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see.

–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in.

–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.)

–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety.

–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel.

–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:

–List the capitals of all the U.S. states

–List the capitals of all the European countries

–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors.

–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.

–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.

Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself. I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too.

(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)

PLEASE HELP ME AND MY FAMILY

Few months ago I started asking for donations because my sister’s husband left with another woman and has move to another country. We didn’t know where excacly. He doesn’t pay for anything, he doesn’t send any money. He is a piece of shit. He was homophobic towards me, he cheated on her when she was pregnant. He was controlling and jealous of everything. But my sister stayed with him because of the child.

Also she had to leave the place they live for the last 9 years because it was bought by his parents and they told her to move out. They never liked her and us because my family is poor.

She is back now in our parents home where I sill live too. There’s only two small rooms in the house, kitchen and one bathroom. All of this for 5 people now. They sleep on the floor in my bedrooom.

Also a two months ago my sister had a car accident and her car was completely trash. And she needs one because we live 5km from school and there’s no bus on my street or the next one.

For the last couple of months we raised 843$. It goes for bills, school payments and supplies and meds.

My sister is really depressed now and we need to help her with everything. She started taking antidepressands. They are not cheap and she still doesn’t work. So I ask you to help us a little more, maybe a month or two.

Also we all are strugling so much. We only have my father’s pension. that’s 1300zl for five people for the entire month. My health is not letting me work right now. I have asthma attacks almost every day. and I may have SM like my mom. Right now i don’t have money to buy meds. I’m 2 months behind with my bills. I don’t know what to do. All my meds:

Also I was deregistered from the labor office because they wanted me to take a job 40km from my place where there’s no bus from my village or any transportation and the job was in the archive when there’s dust and It’s impossible for me to work because of my asthma. Because of that I now don’t have insurance for 6 months and I had to pay 100% for all my meds and for medical visits. So it’s even worse that before. I have a proof of that, you can translate it in google:

Please if you can spare even a dollar, it would be amazing. Or just reblog if you can’t donate anything. I need at least $500.

Paypal: monicakil@mail.com

Also you could also saw similar post on my second blog: itsmagnuswinchester

UPDATE ON FRIDAY SEPTEMBER 13: THIS POST HAS MORE THAN 700 NOTES BUT I ONLY GOT ONE DONATION. PLEASE IF YOU COULD SPARE EVEN A DOLLAR IT’S SOMETHING. I NEED $300 FOR MONDAY TO BUY ALL MY MEDS FOR THIS MONTH.

ONCE AGAIN: PAYPAL: monicakil@mail.com

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crazymela

6 years ago

Nerfherder Endor...bit too long but nice :)

Kylo Calrissian. A very good name for me.

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crazymela

2 years ago

I will never understand why people bully others - its pathetic and stupid. As an ex-victim of bullying I will tell you that bullies are just pathetic excuse of a people with low- self-esteem. If someone is bullying you or your friend/relative make an action, tell someone you trust.

Anon Hate IS Illegal.

Guys, I’m not kidding.

Suicide-baiting, cyberharassmemt, cyberstalking, death/rape threats, and hate speech are illegal in all 50 states as well as Australia and the UK.

Cyberbullying Research Center

Bullying and Cyberbullying Laws Across America

Please click on any state to learn exactly what the bullying and/or cyberbullying law(s) cover.

anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk

Cyberbullying and the Law | Anti-Bullying Alliance

There is no legal definition of cyberbullying within UK law. However there are a number of existing laws that can be applied to cases of cyb

acorn.gov.au

Cyber-bullying | ACORN

cyber-bullying.jpg Cyber-bullying or stalking occurs when someone engages in offensive, menacing or harassing behaviour through the use

Some places include school suspension or expels. Some even include jail time for multiple years.

And yes, they can find someone by username or IP alone.

quora.com

How does the police track VPN users? - Quora

Also, yes. There are methods of catching someone’s IP. Even under a VPN.

Forbes

How To Bait and Catch The Anonymous Person Harassing You On The Internet

Leo Traynor, an Internet user in Ireland, had a problem. More specifically, he had a troll, a very nasty troll.

So.

Next time you get hit with anon hate?

Casually remind them you can very easily take this to the next level. And they can earn jail time while you lay back in your chair, having saved yourself and everyone else from a violent criminal.

Your online actions have real life consequences.

Make sure they learn that.

(Just in case there’s a “the police wouldn’t do that” - Yes. They absolutely would.

AP NEWS

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Or a “I can handle it.” No. That person will continue to harass others as well. And one of them may not be as strong as you. So do it for them and everyone else.

Or a “It’s not that severe.” Yes. It is. People have died because of this. It really is that severe.)

Take action. And make sure the lives of these bullies are truly wrecked.