“You Came Into My Life—not As One Comes To Visit (you Know, Not ‘taking One’s Hat Off’) But

The found family trope is for those who were never a first choice. Those that always carried the baggage but received no tips in exchange. It’s for those that needed a wall to lean on but learned to build one on their own . They looked at people as potential. As someone who could very well become an important part of their life. This is the trope for those who listened but were never heard, those that seeked an idea of a home in souls and not walls. It is for the ones that yearn for a love the weight of blood, but came with no obligation- no -they wanted to be chosen , they wanted a familial bond that escaped the scopes of biology . They wish for their presence to have meaning. For it to be significant. And for their absence to be nagging. Brutal. Loud.

You Were Like A Wild Chrysanthemum (Keisuke Kinoshita, 1955)

— Ernest Hemingway, from The Complete Works; "The Old Man and the Sea,"

come get your man he's not doing anything wrong he just misses you