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Establish rules early and update them often as She wishes. It does not need to be sexual. It should always be helpful to Her and Her needs.

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Financial Domination

If you thought cuckolding was a little too extreme, or really not up your alley, there is another way to bring some intense D/s dynamics to the relationship. Financial domination is more geared toward advanced female led relationships, because it offers a level of control that extends far beyond the bedroom.

I am not referring to the findom fetish or community. There’s a very big difference between financial domination in a FLR compared to femdom / findom. Findom requires the submissive to give up money willingly to a Domme as a way of expressing submission. Financial domination within a FLR however, gives the dominant female complete control over all finances, limiting what funds her submissive has access too.

In many ways, financial domination can be more intense than cuckolding because the submissive is going to find that without money, he is very much under her control, needing permission to buy anything. This gives her an enormous amount of power within the relationship, making her responsible for all major decisions. It’s a big step to take, and a submissive will likely have a difficult time adjusting at first. However, when done properly, it makes the relationship very much female led, beyond the bedroom and sexual activities.

One thing to take caution about, is that financial domination should only be considered if the Domme is capable with money. While it may be an interesting idea, not all dominants are financially smart. Sometimes this role is better off being delegated to the submissive, this is something that should be determined through open communication. If the Domme takes control of the finances and she’s more on the materialistic side, money can disappear very quickly into things that have little value. It can destroy a relationship faster than cuckolding can.

Money has always been a symbol of power so it naturally makes sense that the Domme should be in control of it. Only if she knows how to handle it. The level of trust required for this kind of financial domination must be very high, and the couple should be already married so they know they’re in it for the long term. It really is a permanent arrangement. If it goes badly, the relationship typically doesn’t survive it to give it another chance. Money problems just create stress, debt, and abuse. So it’s definitely not for every female led relationship, and neither is cuckolding. It’s only for those that know they’re capable of handling it responsibly, once they know that for sure, that’s when the real seriousness of D/s can become a reality.

With a responsible and financially smart Domme, financial domination can take the relationship in new directions, and that can be a whole lot of fun. It gives her supreme control of what goes on in the relationship, and there is a whole world of possibility for her to choose from. Just the act of creating a joint account in which he needs her permission to withdraw money, can in and of itself, enhance the sexual D/s dynamics while also enhancing her power in all aspects.

She’ll get to decide how much her submissive has access to at any given time. She may require all receipts to be kept and he may have to ask permission for any large purchase. It will require him to drastically change his spending habits, and learn to budget himself in accordance within the budget she allows him. On the other hand, she is free to buy what she wants without his permission. The psychological aspect of this can really be felt to great degrees.

Since she likely already owns his sexuality, there’s going to be an even stronger sense of ownership when all possessions have been transferred to her name, and he owns nothing at all. Especially if there was a prenuptial agreement signed before marriage preventing him from ever getting anything back should the relationship end.  It grants her the ability to completely destroy him financially, which is why high trust is required. With that trust, it really proves that she owns him and will greatly increase his obedience to her.

A financially and sexually owned submissive has become her property. By this point in a female led relationship, a submissive is dedicated to her, and supportive of her leadership and decision making without question. He knows that she knows whats best for him, that she provides the structure of the relationship, and he supports it. It has become a very serious female led relationship lifestyle, and many submissives crave this structure and look forward to the day when their partner will take this much control.

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Ten Rules for a Successful Mistress

Control the orgasm, and you control the male.

To make any fantasy work, you must build suspense in your submissive.

Stimulation plus frustration equals service and submission.

Every submissive will try to test the limits of your Rule.  Never let him get away with anything.  He needs you to be both firm and consistent.

Physical pain alone cannot satisfy a submissive (a masochist, yes).

The more aroused your submissive is, the more pain he can take.

The more effective your psychological Dominance, the less pain you will need to inflict to control and satisfy your submissive.

All punishment is a balance between intensity and duration.  More intense pain should last less time.  If you want to prolong the punishment, the less intense the stimulation.

Submission increases with time.  As long as you maintain firm control, the longer a session lasts, the more thoroughly submissive your male will become.

Your control and pleasure are inextricably intertwined with the submission and pleasure.

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