We Both Are

New times upon us all…

None of them could be any happier.

I edge my husband because...

(A great list, even though not written by me) I edge my husband because:

It’s what his body wants, whether his mind knows it or not

It’s more pleasurable for him to be edged and denied than for him to cum – simple biology

I can do this every day, and he’ll stay aroused and excited every time

He makes the sexiest noises when I edge him

I love watching his mind go numb with pleasure

He gets so stiff and hard for me, I can’t resist touching it, and I want him to stay that way as long as possible

He stays in a hypersexual state, always eager to pleasure me any way I want

It arouses me to see him lost in bliss

Edging him is so easy, and it gets easier every day I do it

I want him to be happy, and he’s obviously happy when he’s on the edge

I love that he trusts me with his most intimate, natural reflex, so I trigger it as often as possible (or almost-trigger it!)

He fucks me so hard after I edge him for a few days – he’s like an animal, I fucking love it!

He thinks of me all day and texts me the sweetest things

He works hard, doesn’t get enough respect, and deserves to “zone out” for a while in my hands or mouth

It makes him dream about me, so I’m part of literally every moment of his life

And more, and more… Source: http://healthysexymarriage.tumblr.com

oh my. Those piercings. Umm

What is Female Led Relationship?

A Female Led Relationship has many terms associated with it like FLR, Femdom, Female Domination, Mistress slave, D/s dynamic and sometimes even BDSM.

An FLR (Female Led Relationship) is a consensual agreement between a man and woman that the woman in the relationship will lead and the man will play a supportive role. She can make the final decisions in the aspects she wishes to take control of. Her comfort, fulfillment and satisfaction are given priority in the relationship.

The above definition captures various themes in a female led relationship and thus, each word and phrase should be paid attention to.

Characteristics of a Female Led Relationship –

It is a consensual relationship.

Some people think that the woman has all the power and thus, the man is helpless. This is not the case. The FLR ends when either one withdraws their consent. The woman cannot dominate if the man does not submit, the man cannot serve if the woman does not dominate.

She will make final decisions in the aspects she wishes to take control of.

This is very important to understand. As a woman, if you are getting into a Female Led Relationship, you do not need to take control of all the aspects. Nothing could be further from the truth. It might be the case that your man is kinky and he has asked you to control certain things that are overwhelming, but you do not need to comply with all of that immediately. He might have expressed that you can control each and every thing about his life, but you need to go at your pace and you need to decide the aspects you want to control. You should only take charge of the aspects you’re comfortable taking charge of. For example, many women find it easy to begin with taking control of their sex lives. Having sex only when you want to have sex is an easy thing to do. It is made easier by the fact that men tend to comply more easily with sexual commands as compared to other commands. Another example is taking charge of household aspects. For example, she might delegate dusting and cleaning, as they are not difficult skills to learn for someone who has not performed these actions in the past and are easy to delegate. However, the point is that you should only take control of the things that you want to take control of. Do not feel pressured for any extra responsibilities.

Her comfort, fulfillment and satisfaction are given priority in the relationship.

In an FLR, the woman is the one who is in focus. Her comfort is of utmost importance. The man must strive to make her feel at ease. Since he is in a submissive and supportive role, he willingly makes efforts to make sure that the woman is feeling fulfilled. Her satisfaction is not limited to physical satisfaction but her emotional and mental satisfaction as well are equally important. For example, the man constantly reminding her that he loves her dominance, or, he loves the way she takes charge, etc. will boost her confidence and make her feel better in her role.

The man will play a supportive role.

The man in a Female Led Relationship refers to himself as the submissive, slave, servant, pet, etc. Do not get overwhelmed by these terms. For a vanilla person, these terms being used for a human might sound a little too strong. But for now, just ignore the nomenclature and understand the role. The man derives satisfaction in serving his woman. He has accepted the fact that the woman is in the lead. He will need to abide by her decisions. It does not mean that he has no say. It just means that his input would be considered while deciding but the final decision might be different from his expectations. The final decision-making would only be in terms of the aspects she had decided to take control of. Other decisions can be taken mutually or she can delegate the responsibility to her man. For example, she might decide to just have oral sex even if her man wants PIV (Penis in Vagina Sex), or, she might decide to go to a European restaurant even if her man wanted to eat Mexican, or she might decide the final itinerary of the vacation after using the research her man has done for her. In all the cases, the man accepts her final authority and plays a supportive role.

Why Female Led Relationship?

A Female Led Relationship is usually introduced by a man to his woman. An FLR can be very fulfilling for both parties in the relationship. Women are probably more emotional creatures than men. A female led relationship allows her to get more emotional fulfilment. She feels more heard in the relationship. She feels more cared for.

Since the man is in a submissive role, he prioritizes his woman and takes care of her in every situation. The man might call himself a slave, but rather he’s a gentleman. The slave term is used just because of the fact that a gentleman can disobey his woman but a slave never will.

When a man sees that he is able to keep his woman happy and satisfied, it boosts his masculine ego and makes him more confident as a partner.

An FLR can be very fulfilling emotionally. Moreover, FLR has a lot of kinks to play with such as tease and denial, domestic discipline, chastity, etc, which adds to the fun and increases physical satisfaction as well.

Thus, an FLR can lead to improved intimacy, reduced conflicts, and increased satisfaction.

Misconceptions in a Female Led Relationship?

Below are some of the misconceptions in a Female Led Relationship.

She has to make the decision regarding everything.

She has to micro-manage everything.

He is caged, denied and spanked all the time.

The man is beta and worthless, and has no self-respect.

The woman should have multiple partners.

The woman is strict and a bitch 24/7.

The woman has to dress in sexy clothes and shout orders.

None of this (and any related scenarios that you can think of) has to be true. A female led relationship is all about her happiness and satisfaction. Thus, whatever she feels fit would be implemented with the man’s consent.

How to start and FLR?

Short answer – Start slow.

Discuss the interests and boundaries with each other. Write a list of fantasies for your partner. Get to know more about their expectations.

Grow slowly. Ask for feedback. Most importantly, communicate! I cannot stress enough.

COMMUNICATE!

You cannot grow if you do not talk. Do not assume expectations or reactions in your head. If you both had a spanking session, do not assume that you both will be fine after some time. The woman can experience “Dom Drop” or the man can experience “Sub Drop”.

Or, the man might be more willing to jump into the kinks while the woman might still be adjusting to the dynamic. The man can feel disappointed in this case due to the slow pace. He should communicate his expectations and the woman should communicate her hesitations in this case.

Just talk about everything.

Moreover, when getting started, the man should not push the woman to dominate more. He should let her grow at her pace. He should always be supportive and should not try to manipulate her into dominating more or incorporating certain kinks and fetishes.

The woman can start with mini tasks such as “get me a glass of water” or “pick me up at 7” or “take out my heels” and then slowly extend to “Do the dishes” or “Clean the washroom” or “You aren’t going out with the boys, you’re staying home with me”. It is all about getting into the comfort zone.

Conclusion?

Remember, a Female Led Relationship is about empowering the woman. She should be comfortable in being herself. The man should not try to change her but he should embrace her for who she is.

An FLR focuses on her pleasure but it does not mean that his pleasure holds no importance. It is just that her pleasure is prioritized over his.

If you are just starting out, do not feel overwhelmed by so many hardcore articles online. If you have reached flrindia.com, you have reached the best source on the internet for educating yourself about Female Led Relationships.

maybe not the whole cage but definitely the tube. Et pierced.

we are going to solve that tonight

You come home, I am standing at the door beside me is a pile of clothes. There is a maids costume, a pair of black heels, a pair of fishnet stockings, and your new wig.

I help you get out of your work uniform and into your maids outfit.

I put a collar around your neck and attach a leash.

You kiss me and say Thank you Goddess, that feels so much better, may I please cook you a beautiful meal?

I say of course Sweetheart.

We go into the kitchen you start getting dinner while I pour us both a glass of bubbly.

You ask me to please go and sit at the table because dinner is ready.

I go and sit you come in and put my meal in front of me. I say please kneel for me.

You drop to your knees. And bow your head. I kiss your forehead and spread my legs either side of you. I’m not wearing any underwear.

I say because you have cooked such a beautiful meal you deserve an appetizer and pull on the leash until your head is buried between my thighs, you lap n lick my cunt…. effectively edging me.

I say Thank you SlaveGurl that will do for now let’s eat this beautiful meal together you may be seated.

We eat and chat about the day. You take our dishes after we finish and bring another bottle of bubbly.

I sit on the couch, you come and stand before me, I look up and say what’s wrong beautiful?

You say… Goddess I need something from you…. I say ask me please Sweetheart…. you say….. goddess I need to feel filled please…. I say…. would you like my GirlCock Sweetheart?….you say…. oh yes please.

We go to the bedroom I tell you to help me put my harness on and get the lube.

You do as I ask of you. I then ask you to please stand in front of me facing me. So you do. I ask you to please kneel, So you do. I put my hands on the back of your head and push my cock to your mouth…. I say take it Slut. You open your mouth and start swallowing the cock. I push your head forward with my hands as I tell you how hungry you are for cock what a CockSlut you truly are.

I pull my cock out of your mouth and say turn around. HDAU please.

You scurry to do it. I bend over and rim your pussy with my tongue. Then I stand back up and say you will return that compliment by the end of the night.

I get the lube and drip some down onto your pussy and generously apply it to my cock.

I stand directly above you and press my Girlcock onto your entrance. Before I enter I ask you to pass me your leash, and then I remind you that you asked for this….

I gently push my cock into you and gently move it until I feel you relax completely. I then shorten the leash in one hand and hold your hip with the other. I start pushing into you very quickly and then stop, then repeat then stop.

You’re whimpering I say that’s right SissySlut take my cock feel it fill your hungry hole. Know that no one can make you feel like I do.

You start to moan, your body is shaking. I spank your ass until it’s pink this makes you shake even more. You say Goddess I want to pour oh fuck I’m going to pour. Please fuck me Goddess. I spank your ass really hard leaving a hand print.

I then up the tempo….. you moan and I feel your hand move I know you’re getting ready to catch your cummies.

You pour into your hand. I don’t stop fucking you until I’m certain you are finished.

I pull my cock out of you and say now what do you do my hungry CumSlut? You say Goddess I consume for you…. I say well I’m waiting…. you look me in the eye as you swallow and lick your cummies off your hand.

I then say…. that was a gift now I have another… you will lick me to 3 orgasms and don’t forget my pussy…. I lay on the bed and you smile and scurry to comply.

You lick and suck and give me the 3 orgasms.

After we have finished you take off your maids outfit and wig… I say leave the fishnets I really like them. You put on the babydoll that is waiting on your pillow, I get out of my dress and bra and we get into bed together. You lay your head on my chest, I stroke your head and say…. My Beautiful Tink tell me all about your day please I really missed you, and don’t like being away from you…. you sigh and say Mommy that’s why I needed to be filled because I felt empty without you…. I say I know Sweetheart I see you I hear you and I love you, now share your day with me.

Nothing better than together time.

communicate!!

HOTWIFE TIPS

Unbreakable Rules:

1. HONESTY…NEVER lie about ANYTHING.

2. COMMUNICATE…Listen to his needs, after all your husband is letting you fuck other men, the least you could do is listen to and fulfill his sexual needs. My husband is a big dominate man but SEXUALLY loves to be told what I’m going to do & how he can’t pleased me, little humiliation is in some cases important to the husband ..so guess what ? That’s what I do.

3. NEVER become attached to a lover. DON’T let it happen EVER…FOR ANY REASON. If you do you’re an IDIOT.

4. If you have solo sex(only with his knowledge), return to your husband as soon as you’re finished fucking your stud so that he can have his wife, fresh AND NASTY from her encounter. Be a SLUT !

5.ALWAYS RECONNECT with him immediately after sex with someone else. TRAIN him to want to use you. That way he will encourage you to fuck other men for his satisfaction.

6. ALWAYS Give him respect in ur life

7. SHARE the experience with him. This is for the enhancement of your relationship and for mutually exciting sexual experiences….NOT to make other men feel good. Always make sure your hubby feels INVOLVED and SATISFIED and he will put you on a pedistal and let you be the slut you want to be. If husband not present you must video your time with your stud all the times. Ladies, is very important for your husband to feel satisfied make him go crazy for you. Be the nasty slut he wants you to be.

#savita