A Very Important Read

a very important read

Obedience is Important

Even though I have been dominant to my husband for a few years, it can hardly compare to the decades of cultural indoctrination teaching me that the husband should lead, and the wife follows. Because of this lifelong conditioning, leading this relationship has been an uphill battle for me. Even though I am dominant and absolutely love being so, my dominance got off to a slow start, and remains slightly fragile to this day. It is something that needs to be carefully nurtured by both of us if it is to continue to grow long into the future.

For me to be dominant, I need to know for certain that my husband is 100 percent fully invested in my leadership and willing to follow. Because of this, I cannot tolerate any form of bratty behavior from him. Being bratty, no matter how playful, still challenges my dominance, and I’m not ready for that yet. I am very loving and quite playful, but any play has to be led by me, on my terms. Disobedience simply cannot be tolerated and I have to be strict with him. I’ll explain why.

Every act of submission or obedience affirms my right to control him, but more importantly, it gives a boost to my confidence, which makes me feel really good about myself, and inspires me to assume further control. Feeling powerful makes me feel sexy, which is one of the reasons why being dominant is so amazing for me.

Alternately, if he were to disobey me, break our rules willingly, or be bratty, my confidence would take a hit and I’d start questioning my own authority, sending me into a downward spiral of self doubt. I cannot be dominant in that mindset.

That’s the reason I have to be strict when I punish him. When he accepts punishment, it reaffirms my right to lead and repairs my damaged self confidence caused by his bad behavior. Enforcing domestic discipline leaves me feeling powerful, which is very sexy to me and, when it’s deserved, I really enjoy using corporal punishment on him now.

Although we have a few rules in place just for fun as an excuse to spank him, we take others very seriously. These are zero tolerance rules that I have thought out carefully and decided I need in place to rule him effectively. As we both value our relationship integrity, our promises to each other mean so much.

For each rule created, he has promised to do his best to obey it at all times, and submit to my punishment willingly for his failures. I have promised to do my best, to punish him each time the rule is broken and to the full extent that we have negotiated. The punishments for zero tolerance rules are intentionally harsh, to ensure the rule is taken seriously.  It’s not only about him breaking the rule, but making me question and feel bad about myself, causing my dominance to backslide, which we both agree should never be allowed.

Because he craves it, he has been very good when it comes to nurturing my dominance. Whenever I physically restrain him, including chastity, he puts up no resistance. Whenever I decide he needs discipline, he surrenders himself willingly. Whatever I dish out, he takes, no matter the punishment. He accepts whatever training I teach him and does his best to be obedient.

Again, my dominance is fragile, but with time, the fragility will dwindle down to nothing when my lifetime of cultural indoctrination is finally fully suppressed. He knows how important it is to me for him not to be a brat. As I lead him into a life of submission, he is doing all he can to help me grow and feel comfortable in a life of dominance and I love him so much for all he is and does for me.