Honestly All This Rue Thing Is Stressing Me Out Painfully, And Seeing People Throw The "groomer" Label

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Lucky, you're a biased simp. Don't you even care?

Ok, Anon, here's your long-form answer.

If you are as sick of my voice as I am, skip this whole post. Scroll along.

I’ve been criticized recently of being biased, caring for Will’s well-being but not for Shelby’s well-being. That’s partially valid, but like all people with an excuse, wait, wait, let me explain.

Why focus on him, when there is no version of this where he is innocent of wrongdoing (regardless of whether you accept the abuse label)? Where’s the sympathy and concern for Shelby? “You’re just biased.”

Let's take them in order.

Shelby’s Well-Being

Do I care? Yes. 

Am I concerned? Not in the least.

 When she came forward, she said silence was no longer keeping her peace, so she spoke. (Pardon my paraphrasing.) She received a deluge of support from her friends, the CC community, and the public. She expressed immense gratitude and seemed to be moved and bolstered by the unexpected outpouring. 

Is she still affected by Will’s actions? Are there scars that we can’t see? Of course. I’m a happy, married adult, but I still carry the scars of past events and relationships. I have insecurities that even still, years later, I can trace back to my college boyfriend’s behavior and the compromises I made because I believed in him. And there are others. My marriage is a work-in-progress (spoiler: they all are), and I’m still compromising and healing. That’s life. That’s womanhood. We are complicated, strong, and always learning. I don’t know her obviously, but I know myself.

No intervention is needed to save her from mistreatment. There's no imminent danger of continuing harm. This is the healing phase. There is every indication that she is thriving, caring for herself, and finding the strength and support she needs to handle the process of healing.  Her future looks pretty damn bright, she seems to be crushing it, and that‘s great.  Am I invested in her well-being? Nope. She’s got this.

Will’s Well-Being

My concern for Will's well-being is not related to his conduct in the relationship. Those events are totally over and done with. 

My concern for Will’s well-being comes from an entirely different event: Shelby’s public sharing and the protracted fallout.

My investment stems from the incineration of his reputation and the mindset of the people who have decided he’s a monster. The all-or-nothing, scorched-Earth treatment by ex-fans and the MCYT community was, and is, abhorrent. The harm to him is ongoing. The harassment continues. The commitment to preventing Will's recovery and smothering any modicum of support is unprecedented.

Will he ever be embraced again, despite his failures and faults, and entrusted with an opportunity to rise above his past?

Bias

My crusade has led me to dive in and learn everything. I am now safely tucked in an echochamber, focusing on the good in him, and immersing myself in his music with like-minded friends.  Does that result in bias--letting preference lead to unfair judgment?

I saw a good person who did some shitty things. I saw a mix of attractive and unattractive personality traits and a big, loving heart. I saw depression. I saw the warping of self-concept caused by being worshipped day and night by strangers.

Is belief in someone bias? There were turning points in my belief in him, things I watched or read that convinced me Shelby was dead wrong when she he wasn’t a good person and wasn’t capable of change.

“British Boy Returns” VOD. He spends an hour just storytelling about his travels. He’s earnest, full of wonder, and grateful for his fans. He’s acutely aware of how precious his opportunity is.  He is genuinely interested in each town he visited. Her claim that all he cares about is fame and money and doesn’t care about his fans is total bullshit. Go watch it again. He is so grateful.

Response to the fan with cancer: He remembered the person specifically. His response to the fan was genuine, personal, and evident that he was truly moved. The message was not a public show for fans but a personal interaction that was shared.

Message on YouTube on “Mammalian Sighing Reflex”: “It gets better...you’ve gotta trust me.” [It guts me that he was wrong about this, that his message was encouraging and hopeful right before losing everything.] Go read the whole message. He pledged to donate proceeds to mental health charities after one year, and then quietly made good on that promise, despite everything that happened in the intervening months.

MSR: Every word of the album. Every heartbreaking word. The whole thing. He acknowledges his failures, he blames himself and takes responsibility, he describes the effect his MH issues have on others, he’s trying to pull himself out. He knows his demons and he’s fighting them. Does it make him a good guy? No. It makes him human. Mental health issues don’t excuse bad behaviour but they can sure as hell explain it.

His ”I’m moving to New York” message, a few weeks before the implosion: Just read it. Go. Again.

Countless moments in his streams. Sorry he can’t meet every person. Trying to keep tickets affordable. Worried he won’t be able to give enough back to repay all of the support his fans have given him. You get the point.

Otto. No man who greets a cat like that is a demon.

These were things all of you knew. He was never perfect and he tried to tell you that in every way that he could. There’s also a mountain of evidence of the good in him. When this happened, the ex-fans claimed they had just found out he wasn’t the person they thought he was. That’s absurd. Of course he is. He’s all of it, the yin and the yang. He’s just human.

How high’s your pedestal? // Maybe he’ll be Jesus this time

Hey anon, I am not biased. I am persuaded by evidence.

[Let's see if I will shut my yap after this one. We're all so fucking sick of it. Haters, if you'll change your hearts I promise to go away.]

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just watched Tubbo’s reaction to the allegations against him. I just gotta ask - why does everyone believe him, who has provided no evidence, yet not others, who have also provided no evidence? Wilbur, for example, said he does have evidence (texts iirc) but isn’t showing them out of privacy concerns, but no one believes him, yet everyone believes Tubbo, who simply told a story that for all we know can be fake? someone please explain. the community just seems so hypocritical to me.

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