I’ll say it can also be funny and revealing:
My first job was with this weird dude (we’ll call him Andy) that ran a telecom subcontracting business; I was effectively a cable monkey with a bit of extra computer knowledge. To give you an idea of who this guy was, he was a family friend from church (I was raised in a Fundie household) and was the kind of guy that, when the CDC put out the “everyone has to have a cloth covering” mandate during COVID, he wore a cheesecloth mask, even though my friend (also working for him; he knew this) had to go home to a VERY immunocompromised father.
We were on our way to a job site somewhere relatively far (like an hour or two), and I was in the passenger seat where he was talking to me about all the people he’s hired and passed on.
Now, for context, I was barely shaking eggshell off at this point; if a queer person that I felt safe around had asked me, “hey <deadname>, are you—” *hand tilt*, I’d have responded with, “eh probably? I can’t transition bc of family and gf though, so…”
AAAAAnyway, Andy turns to me in the car and—almost bragging, I shit you not—says, “did you know I’ve never hired a woman? They just don’t apply.”
In my head I go “hehe—stelth,” but I just nod my head and also think, “yeah I don’t think that says as much about women as you think, buddy. I think that says more about you.”
Honestly I wish I’d been brave enough to say that in that moment. But I was an egg in an unsafe space sitting next to my boss in a job I needed, so I didn’t advocate the way I should have if I’d had a spine.
we talk a lot about how damaging trans women’s experience of being around men who think there are no women around, but i rarely hear talk about how exhausting and alienating it is to constantly have to interact 1 on 1 with men who think theyre talking to another man. its damaging and draining in a dfferent way.
Please.
If you consume fanfic on ao3 and are 18+ and American I need you to lock in and call your senators saying you oppose a federal porn ban. This would effectively ban ao3 and being queer in public, among many other things, due to the intentionally vague language of the bill. I’m counting on queer tumblr and fandom tumblr to help me get the word out that you have to call your senators
Happy Leland Melvin Day!!
Happy Leland Melvin Day!!!
Binx is a good kitty💜🎶
Amen; jeez.
Also why is Electrolysis so painful 😭
If shaving is the second most dysphoric thing to you behind having facial hair can I get a amen
SO true. Why can’t we just… live?
What I wish happened during my first estrogen dose
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